Loving To Love is a Nairobi-based private practice that centres decolonial & liberation-oriented approaches to mental health, relationships and leadership.
A space that is intentional about meeting those who visit as they are, willing to slow down and connect with the nuances and complexities of being human, and spacious enough to honour the ongoing process of becoming
Systems Aware • Trauma Informed • Emotions Focused • Queer Affirming
My name is Tula Bischof, the founder of Loving To Love & a KCPB-registered and licensed psychologist in Nairobi, Kenya. License no. CP1028P26)
I believe in a psychology that is honest about the social conditions that shape us. One that does not reduce suffering to individual responsibility, but recognises the histories, systems, and relationships we exist within. A psychology that honours emotions, supports agency, and creates space for more compassionate ways of being.
Coaching ౷ International
We both know you can. It’s the how that gets tricky. Each of my programs focuses on a different area of growth, informed by African philosophical frameworks of responsibility, becoming and being. In my heart, I wanted these containers to be gently challenging and SO compassionate, holding you through the brave moments of naming, owning and integrating. Open to souls everywhere, seeking to centre boldness, expansion and attunement in their lives.
Individual Therapy ౷ Kenya & Diaspora
My path often crosses with deep feelers and intellectualisers navigating anxiety, depression, relationship anxiety, grief, questions of identity, daunting life transitions, or anything that feels heavy on the heart or hard to carry alone. I’m intentional about creating a relational, non-mechanical space that welcomes all of you, including the social, cultural, political and economic realities you carry.
I partner with CBOs, NGOs and corporates across Kenya who want to move beyond crisis response towards what actually sustains people at work. Together, we explore how your team relates, communicates and shares responsibility, and get intentional about building a workplace where wellbeing can truly take root.
Organisational Consultancy
Speaking Engagements & Panels
I welcome invitations to speak and join panels on psychology, decoloniality and wider social questions, particularly within Kenyan and East African contexts. I bring a critical, relational and systems-aware lens to conversations on wellbeing, identity and collective change.
"I would say I had quite a black and white view of the world, and hadn't considered nuance within life, people, relationships and everything that falls under that umbrella. Today, I use nuance to create more space and understanding within myself and eventually for those around me."
~ Coaching Client, Denmark
Hey you!
If something here resonates, if there’s a question itching at you, or if any part of you is curious about working together, I would LOVE to connect!
A few things about this space:
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There are no silly questions.
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You don’t need to arrive with the right words.
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No respectability politics! A little nervous or shy? THAT’S OK. Still in your pjs? THAT’S OK too.
What is a Discovery Call?
A discovery call is a free, 30-minute space for us to connect and get to know each other. You’ll have room to share what you’re currently experiencing, the challenges you’re facing, and what you’re looking for in a practitioner. Whether you’re interested in therapy, coaching or organisational consultation, I’ll get a sense of your needs so we can see whether we’re a good fit and what aligned next steps might look like. It’s also your chance to ask me anything.